dillon1000/react

[crud] Fix deps comparison bug (#31599)

Fixes a bug with the experimental `useResourceEffect` hook where we
would compare the wrong deps when there happened to be another kind of
effect preceding the ResourceEffect. To do this correctly we need to add
a pointer to the ResourceEffect's identity on the update.

I also unified the previously separate push effect impls for resource
effects since they are always pushed together as a unit.